I couldn't have been more wrong. Surely people paid attention to how I spoke, but the main thing that they listened to was how I felt to them. If they perceived that I was honest and sincere in my interest in and commitment to our common struggle, then everything was going to be alright. The same is true in the story circle, art is just a reflection of life.
I hesitate to present these suggestions for the operation of the Story Circle process in writing because the process, like the stories that people use it to share, is essentially oral in nature. When things are written down we have a tendency to treat them as more final than they need to be. On the other hand, when people sit down to actually talk together we have the chance to look at the body language, listen to the tone of voice, to question if you're not clear about something or to challenge if you think that's in order.